When life gets busy it is easy to lose touch with people you enjoy. Feeling a connection with friends is one of the greatest joys of life. Friends are an important part of living a life you love. Do you feel like you need more time with your friends?
As Caroline Myss says, “A visit or call from a friend can heal you.” I’ve found that calls and visits with my friends can be healing and enjoyable for both of us!
What is a friend? I’m sure you have your own opinions and beliefs and I would love to hear them!
Following are my thoughts about what it means to be a friend:
A friend is someone it’s enjoyable to know. A friend is someone who feels like a Kindred Spirit. A friend adds positive feelings such as love, joy, and fun to life and it feels good to do the same for them. It feels good to have new friends and friends I’ve known for years. I enjoy having a variety of friends so I see life from many different perspectives. Also, because we all have different backgrounds we can help each other re-frame things and focus on what’s good. Instead of having one "Best Friend" I prefer to have lots of "Treasured Friends" that I enjoy whether it is in person or through email and facebook. Connecting with people who are creative, loving, and kind is a great feeling.
I've heard many people say that you need to be either a parent or a friend to your child, but my mom showed me the best way is to be both a parent and a friend. I admit that there are times, especially while your children are younger, or in their teens, when you might need to act more like a parent than a friend. But it’s possible to guide and be a friend as well. My desire has always been have a great friendship with my son, Zander. I feel thankful to be able to say that Zander has always felt like both my son and my treasured friend. Because of my friendship with my mom, I know that even now that Zander is going to college in Southern California my friendship with him will continue to grow.
Below is a photo of Zander, Me, Dudley, and my sister Tina. I know for sure that some of my most treasured friends are also family members!
I feel lucky to have had my mom as my example of the kind of relationship it is possible to have with your children. Spending time with my mom was always fun. I will always think of my mom as one of my most treasured friends.
It seems to me it's good to have many kinds of friends. For example, some of you I know only through a conference, class, or club such as Toastmasters, or some other shared interest. Some of you I’ve known for a long time but we only get to see each other once in a great while. Some of you started out as my teacher or mentor and then became my friend. Some people begin as friends and then teach us valuable lessons. However I know you, I think of you as my friend.
The following photo is of my treasured friend Linda Bray that I met at a Hay House conference. The photo was taken at the Tao Restaurant in Las Vegas.
Would you like to have more Treasured Friends? A good way to have more Treasured Friends is to be the kind of friend — and person — you want to attract into your life! As the Law of Attraction says, “Like attracts like.” What you think about is what you attract. If you want to have more Treasured Friends, become the kind of person you want to attract as a friend.
Following are some questions you might want to answer:
What friends encourage me to be myself and be the best me?
What friends inspire me to become all I can be?
Who is an encouraging “believing mirror” for me?
Who gives me positive feedback to help me learn?
Who can I tell the worst things that happen in my life?
Who can I tell the best things that happen in my life?
I’ve had some experiences that made me realize there are only a few people I feel I can tell when something “bad” happens in my life. The people who will be there for you during the worst — as well as for the best — are treasures!
How do you feel about the friends you have in your life? Are there people you treasure that need more of your time? Do you have friends who give you “psychological air” by truly listening to you? Do you listen to them? Make a list of people you treasure and make time in your schedule to see them — or at least email or call them more often.
When life gets busy it is easy to lose touch with people you enjoy. In my opinion, feeling a connection with friends is one of the greatest joys of life. In fact, I believe that inspiring friends are a huge part of living a life you love.
Remember this quote: “A visit or call from a friend can heal you.” Visit a friend, email a friend, call a friend — allow the joy of your friendship to heal and enliven both of you!
I wish all of you love, hugs, laughter, joy, variety, creativity, and lots of fun with your treasured friends!
Margaux
PS: Do you use facebook? I am enjoying it as a way to connect with more people. I like that it has helped me meet people who have similar interests from around our country and in other countries as well. I also like it because it’s a way to share ideas with like-minded people. Plus it’s an easy way to share photos with each other.
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